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Josina
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posted on 02-18-2011 at 23:38 |
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29, Female, Virgin, UK seeking Male, Virgin, UK.
I have decided to take matters into my own hands. I am seeking someone who is in a similar situation to me and wants to do something about it. So contact me if you think this is a good idea.
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friend4354
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posted on 02-21-2011 at 16:58 |
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Thanks for your openness.
You have left no email address.
Virginity is extremely desireable for many men. Just look at the message at the end of the article:
Miss Hinlicky says thanks to all those who have written to her. She cordially requests, however, that all unsolicited love letters cease.
If you are from the U.K., you might consider looking abroad. The U.K. culture has gone down the tubes badly. They have the perverse idea that if you are a virgin when you are 30 or 40 or even beyond there is something seriously wrong with you. The U.S. is just as perverse or perverted.
Honour does not fit into the relationship equation in the U.K. (and other Western cultures). An eternal loving marriage with just one formal sexual partner just doesn't happen in these places.
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Josina
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posted on 02-22-2011 at 13:36 |
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Thank you
To the person who took time out of thier day to tell me that men find virginity highly desirable I would like to say, thank you and you shouldn't have.
Reading your email makes my little feminist heart beat that little bit faster.
I think sex is a completely natural thing and that virginity should not be heralded as some great virtue. Men find virgins desirable because it means the women has no one to compare them to and becasue it feeds into society's misinformed view of women as virginal vessels of virtue. Women are much more than this, open your eyes and your mind and have a good look around you.
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friend4354
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posted on 02-28-2011 at 18:37 |
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Sex indeed is a completely natural thing. So is having babies.
When a man and a woman make passionate love, the natural result is to have a baby. This result can be effectively supressed through chemicals, operations or wearing a synthetic garment over your private parts.
Despite the use of birth control, which is the most effective it has been in the thousands of years it has been tried, human biology cannot trump the technology. Our bodies prepare us for having children when we have sex.
Surpressing pregnancy does not surpress the related hormones. A woman has a biological need to have the man she made sweet love to remain at her side. No system is foolproof, although an insistance on marriage has traditionally worked pretty well. The natural result of sex, having a child, puts a woman in a more vulnerable position. She must carry the baby in her arms while nursing it. A man is biologically incapable of nursing a baby. Only a woman can give milk, biologically. The baby bottle was only invented in the late 19th century. So she needs his support, for this and other reasons.
A woman who has recently given birth often has natural hormonal issues. She also has gained more body fat. It takes a while for her to return to a more balanced state. She needs a faithful man at her side. How can she assure this?
Society in the U.S. and U.K., highly influenced by the mass media, sees women as anything but "virginal vessels of virtue". Indeed, from watching most any film or music video or series, you might get the impression that women have but one purpose, and a good one at that. There seems to be no reson for a man to get a commitment for anything from them.
Insisting on marriage serves many good purposes. One of which, a woman can weed out the men who are not serious about committment. You can focus on developing the relationship. And for some strange reason, men seem to respect a woman more who requires something in return for complete access to her body.
For sure, having casual (as opposed to formal) sex is lots of fun. It is most often the woman's body reacting towards committment and having feelings towards the sex partner. The other side of the coin is an emotional hurt, that can stay with you if you don't know how to switch it off. The emotional consequences are not given their due very often in the mass media.
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montrealmatt
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Registered: 02-11-2011 Location: Montreal
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posted on 03-03-2011 at 10:33 |
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Me too
I am pretty much in the exact same situation as you, only I'm a bit younger, but I'm still more than ready and I'm getting a bit depressed that I'm still a virgin. Unfortunately, I live in Canada Otherwise, we definitely could have been something ;)
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friend4354
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posted on 03-03-2011 at 17:01 |
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Not difficult at all
You most certainly will find what you are looking for. There are plenty of people out there willing to oblige.
The only question is how strict are your criteria. For sure, for a minimal amount of money you can fix your virginity problem within the hour.
But if you start setting down conditions, it becomes tougher. So you might ask yourself how important your morals are in relation to your urge to have sex.
It is tough, but if you read my posts you will know my stand on the issue. I am in disagreement with most people here (and everywhere :)).
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cockedweapon
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Registered: 07-24-2010 Location: UK
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posted on 04-25-2011 at 11:05 |
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I'm a virgin from the UK and I'm 30. I think it would be nice to find a female virgin to get to know and take it slow with. I understand where she is coming from.
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Roundabout
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posted on 10-27-2012 at 06:19 |
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I'm a virgin. Are you still looking?
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